This past weekend we helped celebrate Kristian's grandmothers 90th birthday!!! On Saturday night we went to his grandmother's house where the whole family gathered for dinner and drinks. All of the aunts and uncles were in attendance and I finally got to meet the one uncle, whose a brain surgeon btw, that I still had left to meet. He unfortunately couldn't make it to our wedding though his wife (my FIL's sister did come to the wedding). It was a great night and K's grandmother seemed to really enjoy herself. She's actually in amazing shape physically and mentally for a 90 year old.
I have to say that part of the evening was a tad awkward for us. See Kristian's cousin and his wife were also at the party. They also recently got married back in July. We weren't able to attend the wedding so this was my first time meeting them both.
We ran into K's mom outside when we first arrived and she mentioned that it turned out that his cousins wedding pictures didn't come out well at all. Apparently they had a friend of the family take the photos. Not sure if the photographer was a professional or just someone with a fancy camera but regardless most of their pictures came out blurry and out of focus. Needless to say they were very upset. And I can't blame them, I would have been devastated!
After hearing this I made a point to not talk too much about our wedding and definitely not our pictures. This worked out fine until one of Kristian's other aunts arrived (she went to both of our weddings) and immediately started gushing about how fabulous she thought our pictures are and how they should be in a magazine etc. etc. Right in front of K's cousin. She made no mention of their wedding despite having just gone to it. I just thanked her, said we liked the pictures as well and tried to change the subject.
She then sits down and takes out her camera to start taking pictures of everyone. She took one of me and Kristian and again starts going on and on about how were so photogenic and look so good together etc. She really didn't say anything to Kristian's cousin but did take their picture as well.
Then during dinner they were all asking about our honeymoon in St. Lucia and saying how they've heard so many wonderful things about it. Kristian's cousins wife started talking about their upcoming belated honeymoon to Jamaica which no one seemed all that interested in. Again cue the awkwardness.
Towards the end of the night the cousin's wife asked us if we lived close by (they live out of state and don't make it down to the area very often). We said we lived about 30 minutes away and she was like "oh you must come over a lot, you must be the favorite grand-child". Uhhh. How do you respond to that?! We just kind of laughed it off and didn't say much.
It was really nice to hear all the compliments about our wedding and our photos but I just felt incredibly uncomfortable and bad for his cousins. And maybe they didn't notice or didn't care but I still felt bad about the whole situation. Fortunately these aren't cousins that we will see very often since they live several states away.
Have any of you been in a similar situation where your wedding was being compared to another couples right in front of both of you? How did you handle it?