The List

For the past month I’ve been in the process of printing and assembling our invitations which I bought at Michael’s. I think they look great so far but the whole process has given me a headache and my printer almost became a wedding casualty last night when it decided to print shit crooked and have constant paper jams *angry fists*

Now that we are coming to the part of the process of addressing said invitations Kristian has once again been giving me shit on my part of the guest list. Keep in mind we already sent save the dates and Emily Post would roll over in her grave (she’s dead right?) if I didn’t invite someone who I sent a STD to so not much I can do regardless. Here’s the issue, we are trying to keep the guest list down to a reasonable number, though our ideas of reasonable are different. If it were up to him we would have just invited immediate family and maybe 3 friends each, my idea of reasonable is 100 people…50 people each. And when you consider most of those are couples that = 25 couples each which is not that many.

The problem lies in the fact that Kristian’s family is much bigger than mine. His mom has 3 siblings and his dad has 4 siblings plus their spouses AND Kristian decided he needed to include all first cousins. So basically his family alone is about 50 people. Once you throw in his groomsmen and like 3 friends he’s far exceeded the 50 person limit I was hoping for. Now my family on the other hand is much smaller…at least the family I actually see on a somewhat regular basis and therefore plan to invite. I’m not inviting all my cousins because I never see them. My family = like 15 people. Therefore I had more room to invite friends. Well Kristian is upset that I’m inviting more of my friends than he is. I keep “lovingly” pointing out that his family is much bigger than mine and therefore take up more spots on the list. This list can't be 75% his guests and 25% my guests simply because my family is smaller.

He was going through the list last night and questioning all my friends (the ones that I’m not super BFF’s with) and asking me “when was the last time you talked to her” or “who is this person again” or “why are we inviting them” Sigh. I really don’t like having to defend my guest list choices. Thanks to the sorority reunion from 2 weeks ago he’s now met all but one of the friends I’m planning to invite so I don’t see what the big effin deal is. It's not like the room will be full of strangers. He seems to feel that unless I talk to these people twice a day everyday they shouldn’t be invited. **Note I don’t talk to ANY of my friends twice a day everyday…not even my MOH.

Oh and of course we have to factor in our parent’s friends. When we told his mom that we couldn’t afford to invite her 5 BFF’s in addition to the two couples we were already including on their behalf they did offer to pay for their friends which is a big help. However our guest list which was suppose to be no more than 100 is now topping 115. I’m hoping after RSVP’s come back we’re in more of the 90 person range since that’s the budget I’ve been working with.