Tuesday, March 30, 2010

Ghosts of Boyfriends Past

It was bound to happen eventually and I can't really be too surprised since I'm the queen of Internet stalking but this morning I received a friend request and email from an ex-boyfriend on Facebook. Actually he's not just any ex-boyfriend, he was my first really serious boyfriend, the first boy that cheated on me (that I know of) and the first boy to really break my heart.

Now I don't want to give the wrong impression that I'm somehow still broken hearted over this guy or that I've spent the past 9 years missing him because that could not be further from the truth. Trust. This kid was a hot mess, all my friends and family hated him, he was even banned from coming to my house and my brother would hang up on him whenever he called me. He was a loser with a capital L.

Why did I date him? Well mainly because I was a dumb 17 year old when I met him and I thought he was completely different from who he actually turned out to be. Meaning I thought he was a cute, funny, preppy guy and really he was a ghetto, wanna be the next Eminem high school dropout.

We haven't spoken to or seen each other since 2001 when he moved to Missouri and basically dropped off the radar. Over the years I have wondered about whatever happened to him and if he ever ended up in jail, which wouldn't have surprised me. Or if maybe he grew up, got his act together and became an upstanding member of society.

Well based on what I could tell from his profile, his almost 30 year old self isn't much different than the wanna-be ghetto superstar 17 year old boy I met. Sad really. In his email he mentioned he has a baby girl now though his profile says he's single. The only thing surprising about this is that it didn't happen sooner.

I did write him back, congratulated him on his baby and told him I was getting married soon.

I can't believe after this long without any contact he pops back up less than 2 months before I get married. Maybe it's God way of reminding me how far I've come and how amazing Kristian is compared to the men from my past. Not that I really needed that reminder :)

14 comments:

KLaw said...

Things have a funny way of working out like that. Maybe that chapter needed to officially be closed. And he was a douche. Just sayin :)

bananas. said...

Isn't it funny how things work out? You're so much better off with your soon to be hubby. Total upgrade if i do say so myself ;)

Jenni said...

Oh my goodness... That's sad. I feel sad when I look at my ex's facebook profile. He's still going out drinking, dropping out of grad school and is working as a cableguy..... sad. But it makes me so happy about whee I am in my life and the relationship Spencer and I have

meredith said...

life is funny like that. just reinforces what a great man you do have! as women, we ALL seriously make some questionable dating decisions from time to time!

Caro said...

On thing I learned is that the past should stay in the past.

Jenn said...

That's crazy but yes maybe its to remind you how happy you are and lucky now and how he sucks :)

Born to be Mrs. Beever said...

So funny. Mr Fix It always says he won't join facebook because he's afraid of all the past women who will find him and either berate him for his behavior or try to hook up with him again :) That is funny he found you rigth before the wedding. It is so weird when us girls think about what 'could have been.' I do think it makes us appreciate the fiances even more!

Spanky said...

Were you able to see a pic of him? I was wondering if he still has man tata's!

Mrs T said...

The joy of stalk book!

Chocolate Lover said...

It does make you appreciate what you have now, when you think about what could have been with an ex.

Alicia said...

oh man!! well i'm so glad to hear that things definitely ended up on a better note!! we've all dated a "what the heck was i thinking" at one time or another....lol!

Annie said...

oh i can totally relate....i had someone break my heart a few years back and he lives close to my fiance and i but i hadn't seen him in over 3 years and in the past month i've seen him driving around his ghetto a$$ car more than once and it makes me so incredibly thankful that i am where i am today and with the man of my dreams....such a great reminder that everything happens for a reason.
some men are just LOSERS!!

hope you are having a good week sweets!!

Ela said...

So strange how that happens. It weird how exes just pop up out of nowhere.

Thank you for the prayers, hon.
xoxo

Salt said...

That was nice of you to write him back. I probably wouldn't have. :)