It was bound to happen eventually and I can't really be too surprised since I'm the queen of Internet stalking but this morning I received a friend request and email from an ex-boyfriend on Facebook. Actually he's not just any ex-boyfriend, he was my first really serious boyfriend, the first boy that cheated on me (that I know of) and the first boy to really break my heart.
Now I don't want to give the wrong impression that I'm somehow still broken hearted over this guy or that I've spent the past 9 years missing him because that could not be further from the truth. Trust. This kid was a hot mess, all my friends and family hated him, he was even banned from coming to my house and my brother would hang up on him whenever he called me. He was a loser with a capital L.
Why did I date him? Well mainly because I was a dumb 17 year old when I met him and I thought he was completely different from who he actually turned out to be. Meaning I thought he was a cute, funny, preppy guy and really he was a ghetto, wanna be the next Eminem high school dropout.
We haven't spoken to or seen each other since 2001 when he moved to Missouri and basically dropped off the radar. Over the years I have wondered about whatever happened to him and if he ever ended up in jail, which wouldn't have surprised me. Or if maybe he grew up, got his act together and became an upstanding member of society.
Well based on what I could tell from his profile, his almost 30 year old self isn't much different than the wanna-be ghetto superstar 17 year old boy I met. Sad really. In his email he mentioned he has a baby girl now though his profile says he's single. The only thing surprising about this is that it didn't happen sooner.
I did write him back, congratulated him on his baby and told him I was getting married soon.
I can't believe after this long without any contact he pops back up less than 2 months before I get married. Maybe it's God way of reminding me how far I've come and how amazing Kristian is compared to the men from my past. Not that I really needed that reminder :)