**Yesterday marked our 3 month point until the wedding. We are now in our last trimester of this wedding planning shiz!!
I mentioned last week that we were meeting with our pastor to start the pre-marital counseling this past weekend. Well our first meeting went quite well. I've met Pastor Steve briefly in the past but this was my first chance to really sit down and talk to him as well as Kristian's first chance to meet him altogether. I know Kristian was very apprehensive about the whole thing but fortunately he seemed to really hit if off with Pastor Steve and I think he's more onboard with using him for the wedding. Steve is on the younger side (39) and pretty laidback which we both like.
When we first got there we told Steve a bit about how we met, how long we've been together etc. He then told us about the test and how he uses that as a guide to lead our sessions. He said that it's not a pass/fail but they do prefer for couples to score at least 60% compatibility in each section. He said only one couple scored less than that, about 25% in each section which was really bad considering they already had a child together! He said they never came back.
The test consisted of around 170 questions that we had to answer on a Scan Tron...holy flashbacks to college! We had to answer each question with either Agree, Disagree or Unsure. We were allowed to sit at the table together to take the test and we didn't talk however there were several questions that we both found ourselves snickering on.
The questions are all worded in different ways so that you really need to read them correctly or you may end up agreeing to something you didn't mean to. Several examples of the questions were (I'm paraphrasing):
-My future spouse and I have agreed on when to start having kids
-I get along with my future spouses family
-I am uncomfortable with the amount of alcohol my future spouse consumes
-I feel infidelity is a valid cause for divorce
-My future spouse and I have discussed how will manage our finances
And my favorites-
-I am unhappy with the amount of television my future spouse watches ---this made me laugh b/c I totally watch too much tv!
-I feel that my future spouse could cause me physical harm ---ummm I wouldn't marry him if I felt that way!
-I am uncomfortable with my future spouse's homosexual tendencies ----BWAHAHAHA, I lied to Kristian and told him I agreed on that question :)
Overall I felt the test was pretty interesting though I don't think it can really determine your compatibility unless it shows that you and your fiance have just never had a conversation before. We will get the results back in about 2 weeks and based on that he'll determine what areas we should focus on. He also will be emailing me materials to look over to help come up with the ceremony and how we want that performed.
When we were leaving we passed my mom's desk (she's the office manager for the church) and were laughing about how clean and organized it is... my mom is a bit OCD...so we decided to subtly move a few items around to see if she would notice. So far she hasn't mentioned anything :)