In one way Kristian and I are very lucky that both of our families are basically local. His parents live 20 minutes away and my family lives about an hour away up in Maryland. I can't tell you how happy I am to be able to avoid the cluster f*ck that is the airport or train station during the holiday season. We live close enough to where we can just hop in the car the morning of and be where we need to be in an hour or less.
However, with this benefit also comes the downside of both of our families expecting us to spend Thanksgiving and Christmas with them or somehow be able to split our days to see each of them. The problem with this is that both families like to eat Thanksgiving and Christmas dinner around the same time and last time I checked we can't be in two places at once. Nor do I have the stomach capacity for two big dinners, though last Christmas we had lunch with my family AND dinner with his. I thought I was going to explode.
This has made things a bit tense in the past because we both obviously want to see our families on the holidays. Last year I know my mother was upset that we weren't able to spend all of Christmas day with her and had to rush through lunch to head to his parents house for dinner.
Fortunately we've already worked out our plan for this year, since my mother and oldest brother have decided to take a cruise for Thanksgiving we are spending that day with my in-laws...pretty easy decision there. We'll be spending Christmas Eve with my in-laws, exchanging gifts and eating dinner and then on Christmas Day we'll head up to MD to open gifts and have lunch with my family. Hopefully this will make everyone happy and then next year we can switch and spend Thanksgiving with my family and Christmas Day with his.
Ideally in the future we would love to have a house that is big enough to where we could host both of our families together for the holidays. This would especially come in handy after we have kids rather than having to lug them all over MD and VA.
How do you and your significant other split the holidays with your families?