Wednesday, February 1, 2012

Answer-- Not anytime soon

Question- When are you having another kid?

It amazes me how many people have already asked me when we're having another baby? I know Hunter is super cute and all, but seriously? Can we let the stitches from the first baby heal before we start working on baby #2? Hell I'm still not allowed to do the thing you need to do to even make a baby (which by the way is SUPER frustrating for us both) so my go to answer is "not anytime soon". 

Now if you ask my husband's Uncle Stanley he's convinced I'll be pregnant again by Christmas. When he said this I wanted to physically smack some sense into him. Granted surprises happen all the time so while I sit here saying there is no way in hell I'll be pregnant again this coming Christmas who knows what God has in store for us. 

Do Kristian and I want another child? Yes. Eventually. **Though last night while dealing with Hunter's EVERY. HOUR. wake up calls he did insist he was going in to get a vasectomy and that one child was enough** HA! I've always said that I would like to have two children, ideally a boy and a girl though if we end up with two boys that would be great as well. I think it would be great for Hunter to have a sibling to grow up with and have as a playmate. With that said I am in no hurry to go through the whole pregnancy/delivery/newborn/no sleep thing again anytime soon. 

I was VERY lucky that I was able to get pregnant as easily as I did and that all things considered I had a relatively easy pregnancy. But I know that may not be the case next time. For all I know I may not be able to get pregnant again so easily (or at all). I may end up having a very rough pregnancy with complications. It's scary to think about. And even though my pregnancy was pretty smooth, I'm not gonna lie I HATED the first trimester and the last month. I don't do well with pain, discomfort and constant nausea. 

And to be honest, I'm still a bit traumatized from the whole labor/delivery thing. I knew it wouldn't be easy and I knew it would be painful but I also didn't expect the epidural to hurt as badly as it did (one of the most painful things ever) or for the epidural to wear off and have to feel such painful contractions and even though I knew a C-section was a possibility I never expected to have to be knocked out during it and miss the birth of my child. And let's not even talk about having to deal with a baby being in NICU and having to leave the hospital without him. It was a painful, scary experience and I think it will be a while before I'm willing to go through it again.

So when I say "it will be a while" what does that mean? Well I suspect around 3 years or more. I really would like for Hunter to be a bit more independent and preferably potty trained before I have another baby in the house to care for. We also need to be in a good place financially to where we can either afford to have two kids in daycare or one of us can stay home. 

So I wouldn't be expecting any baby announcements from me anytime in the near future, unless of course God thinks it would be funny to make me have a nervous breakdown. 


Kristen at First Name Smith said...

its amazing how quickly these comments start coming, isn't it? Ugh. sorry doll. People are fucking idiots.

Heather said...

I can't believe people are asking already! Geez! It amazes me to think that in the past, people had so many children right in a row. My grandfather had nine siblings who were all only a year or two apart! Thank goodness women now have more of a choice and a say in how many children they have. As for me, I'll be lucky if I can handle having one, as I am not looking forward to the pregnancy and labor parts.

carrie1 said...

Ha ha... I've heard this a handful of times too so far. And honestly I would be okay with just one.

Kristen said...

Isn't it crazy how fast those comments come. Everyone in Josh's family was rooting for Irish Twins, I let them know that wasn't happening unless Josh was carrying #2 haha!

I wasn't even entertaining the idea of having a baby when C was only a month. Seriously after a C-section I was still recovering.

However now that he is getting bigger I am starting to warm up to the idea...kind of like the bandaid approach (dont' want to get too used to sleep, right)..that being said no annoucements for a while here either.

Venassa said...

It always amazes me that people start asking that so early on. At least they don't ask me, since I'm not married or anything. I'd love to have two kids a bit close in age just so they'll play easier together, but the thought of having a baby and a toddler? No thanks. I'd rather it be years as well.

Meg said...

Haha, I love this post. Don't expect another birth announcement from me unless God thinks a nervous breakdown would be funny.

We are on the same time line girl. When this baby is 3 that is our plan too--I like them being a bit more independent, sleep through the night, feed themselves, use the potty, etc. Silly babes.

Mrs EyeCanSee said...

Holy cow you're already getting asked that! Dear lord people! We really started getting it once Jamie turned one. Two under two? No thank you!

AmyJean {Relentless Bride / Fry, The Baby} said...

I love this post. while I was in process of pushing Annabelle out, i had this exact thought - NOT ANYTIME SOON, IF EVER!!! But two weeks out, we started talking about our "next child" and a little over three weeks out and i can't wait to give Annabelle a sibling WHEN the time is right (and if all things go as "planned", etc). Larry is shocked that it went from "possibly never" to "sure in a couple years" in less than three weeks but he's really happy about it too!

Allie said...

NO WAY! I cannot believe they are asking ALREADY! HAHA! That is seriously nuts!

Nicole-Lynn said...

You crack me up... seriously! ;)