There is one girl name in particular that he loves and I...like it...not sure I love it, but at least I don't hate it which is a good start. He's much more open to girl names, the problem comes with boy names and this is why I really want to wait until we know what we're having because we've already gotten into heated discussions about what to name our possible son.
Long story short Kristian wants to name our possible son after himself. I am very opposed to this for a number of reasons, the first being that I'm personally not a fan of juniors, never have been. For the second reason I must give a bit of background:
My father-in-law is Edward Kristian but goes by Kris. My husband is Kristian Edward (so technically not a junior) and goes by Kristian or Kris depending on whose talking to him. Most of his family calls him Kris so needless to say at his family gatherings it can get a bit confusing already with two Kris'. Not to mention that my husband grew up being known as "little Kris" which would personally drive me crazy. So therefore I don't want my child to be added to the name confusion and definitely would not want him known as "little Kris" or "baby Kris" or anything of the sort. My family and friends call him Kristian, b/c that's what I call him (that's how he introduced himself to me and he said he likes that I call him by his full name) so if we were to call the baby Kristian that still doesn't solve the problem when it comes to my family and friends. Sigh.
Hope that wasn't toooo confusing. Anyways I've explained this to Kristian and he doesn't think any of these reasons I have are a big deal. But I've pretty much put my foot down. I want the kid to have his own name. So I can't help but admit that there's a big part of me hoping it's a girl if for no other reason than to put off this argument until the next potential kid.
Oh and as for using Kristian as a middle name, that hasn't been completely ruled out, however he doesn't seem completely satisfied with that idea and I have other middle names I would prefer as well. So who knows.
This whole naming a kid business is NOT easy.