Last night we took a tour and met with the director of a daycare that is very close to our house. Overall we both really like the facility and how they operate. We got there towards the end of the day so there weren't many infants still left but the ones that were there all seemed very happy and well taken care of. We met with one of the infant teachers who seemed very nice. For the most part I really liked the place and the location is perfect because it's right off a main street that we both have to travel to and from work so we would not need to go out of our way in the opposite direction and make our already long commutes even longer. More than likely I would drop off in the morning and Kristian would pick up in the afternoons since he's typically done with work by 3pm.
Then of course we get to the pricing part of this deal which I already knew would be expensive and I was not wrong. It fell in the range I was expecting yet I stupidly hoped maybe it would be less and I would have a nice surprise. Not so much. I'm already mentally recalculating our budget and trying to figure out how to make this work. Now if we could somehow work it so that the kid only needs to go 3 days a week rather than 5 we would save a good bit of money because that's when the price break starts. So we plan to see if one or both of our mothers could take a day each week to watch the baby and perhaps see if one of our bosses would let us work from home one day a week. We have a lot to figure out.
In the meantime I still want to check out a few more places to compare before making a final decision.
On another note I need to rant for a minute--- this morning I posted on FB about how expensive daycares are and most of the comments I've gotten so far have been very supportive except for one from a girl that I know is a stay at home who wrote something along the lines of "I hope once the baby comes you'll want to stay home with him" umm EXCUSE ME?! As if I don't WANT to stay home with my child. What a huge assumption to make! Obviously I would love to be able to stay home with my child but despite the high cost of daycare it's not more than what either of us make at work and there is no way we could afford to live on one salary.
So I very nicely responded that I would love to stay home with my child but that's not a financial option for us at the moment. Ugh. I won't even tell you what I REALLY wanted to say to her.
Here's the thing I have nothing against daycare, both my husband and I went to daycare and we turned out alright. And even if I could stay home with my kid I would probably still want to send him to daycare one or two days a week so they could learn to socialize with other kids, learn to share and so that I could have that time to do my errands. Daycare isn't the devil. If you can afford to stay home with your kid that's fantastic, I envy you. Unfortunately I cannot.