Wednesday, January 5, 2011


It's that time of year again, the time to resolve to change yourself for the better. I, like most people, suck when it comes to resolutions. I start out with the best intentions only to have whatever it is I'm trying to change fall by the wayside within a month or less.

So this year instead of setting super specific resolutions like running 3 miles a day (let's be real, this would never happen) or reading 3 books a month (I watch too much t.v. for that) or having sex 3 times a day (sorry Kristian) and then beating myself up when I don't follow them completely I'm trying to keep my resolutions a bit more broad in the hopes that this way they might actually be a bit more attainable.

I'm hoping by the time we ring in 2012 I'll have improved these areas of my life in some way, small or large:

-Health (mental and physical)- It's been hard for me to motivate myself to work out, probably because I don't really "need" to lose weight. I'm what I like to call "skinny-fat" meaning that most people would classify me as skinny or petite but I'm not toned AT ALL or have any endurance or strength. So I would like to try to be more active. This could mean a lot of things, doing yoga, running, lifting weights, dancing, humping (that counts!!), just something active to help improve my overall health and appearance.  Included with this is eating better, trying to incorporate more fruits and veggies into my diet and drink more water and less soda.  As for the mental aspect I need to learn not to stress out so much, especially over the shit I can't control.

-Budgeting- Now that I'm married and trying to budget for two people it's been a bit of a challenge the last few months. It definitely helps now that Kristian is back to having a salaried job and we have a set amount coming in each month but with trying to save to buy a house among other things this is an area that needs a lot of work from both of us.

-Relationships- I feel like I've been living in my little marriage bubble since May (even before that with wedding planning) and I haven't been as good about keeping up with my friends. I love my friends and I love the time I spend with them but there are so many times when I've preferred to just hang out with my husband (I'm a newlywed, shoot me) but I don't want to turn into one of those girls who doesn't do anything or go anyplace without her significant other, I can't stand those people. I would never want to be so caught up in my marriage that I let my friendships fall to the wayside.

-Work- I must admit that my job is NOT my dream job. Shocking I know. BUT while it may not be my dream job and there are many days when I fantasize about winning the lottery and saying peace out to my boss I also know that I have it pretty good and there are a lot of aspects about my job that I do really like. So my goal is try to focus more on the positives about my job rather than the negatives. To not procrastinate so much when it comes to doing the tasks I despise (which on some days is any task other than checking Facebook). And to just do better.

So those are the main things, of course I have a bunch of smaller goals I would like to try to accomplish but if I don't I won't throw myself off a bridge. I need to remember there will be days when I won't do anything active, when I'll blow our budget on something silly that we don't need, when I won't call a friend back right away so I can snuggle with my husband, or when I'll put off something at work just one more day, and that's okay. Resolutions shouldn't make you feel like you're in a prison but be an opportunity for overall change.


bananas. said...

i'm sorry but i hate the whole concept of new years resolutions. i mean goals are great but why wait til the first of the year. it should be a daily improvement. that said, i like what you wrote about work. i'm in the same boat. i actually like my job but it's not my dream job so some days are way harder than others. think i'll look at the positive. i already do but i'll do it even more!

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Marian said...

Gosh, I have those days when I just want to hang with the hubby as well...I'm glad I'm not alone:) And humping is totally an exercise;)

Bicoastal Bride said...

Great goals! I'm also working on not stressing out over things I can't control and am trying to focus on exercise for health, rather than weight loss.

Teenage Bride said...

oh my .... budgeting. I could stand for improvement there.

Jen said...

I think these are some great goals. I'm with you on the fitness and budgeting ones. I need to do those too. :-/ I've already started on the exercise by signing up for a month of Zumba classes in lieu of running in the winter weather. The budget... just... scares... me.