To be honest I didn't expect to hear from him since he's the type that probably doesn't get on FB very often. However I received an email back from him today. He noticed (based on my new last name and wedding photo) that I was now married and sent his congratulations and well wishes. He then explained that when he and his wife got on FB they agreed to only be "friends" with same sex "peeps" and even keep that group of people limited. Therefore he couldn't accept my friend request but hoped I was doing well. I did click on his friend list and saw that he was telling the truth, all of his friends were male with the exception of a few female family members.
I admit at first it stung a bit to have my friend request rejected, even though I didn't really want to get back in contact, I was just curious about what was going on in his life. I responded, thanked him for the congratulations, told him I understood and wished him well. I know every relationship is different and I try not to judge but the whole thing left a bad taste in my mouth.
While I guess I can understand why a couple would make that agreement it does seem a bit silly to me. It gives off the impression that you don't trust your partner (whether that's true or not) and their online activity. I know FB and other social networking sites have contributed to cheating and relationships ending but let's be real, FB doesn't make you cheat, if you want to cheat you'll find a way. While I respect their decision I can't help but find it odd and I know it's not something Kristian and I would ever put into place. I don't care if he's friends with girls on FB or in real life. I trust him completely. I think if you start to notice shady behavior from your significant other in regards to online activity then it would be something to perhaps consider but otherwise I just don't really get it.
Do you have any online "rules" with your significant other? Do you think this is strange or totally understandable?