Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Why my wedding won't be the best day of my life

One thing that truly annoys me is when a woman says her wedding will be the best day of her life. Really? The BEST day of your ENTIRE life. Well I don't know about them but I would hate to think that my life had peaked after only 30 short years. If that's the case what do I have left to look forward to?

Don't get me wrong, my wedding day will definitely be ONE of the best days of my life, easily top 5 I'm sure. However, it will share a space with many other days like the day I graduated from college, the day Kristian proposed, and the day(s) that our kid(s) are born. And if we're ever lucky enough to finally win that Mega Millions lottery I'm sure that will be a pretty damn good day.

I just feel it puts too much pressure on a bride to try to convince her that her wedding should be the best day of her life. It makes any of those tiny hiccups and mis-haps that may happen all the more upsetting because they have the potential to ruin the BEST day of your life!

Another issue that irritates the shit out of me is when women say that they want their wedding to be the best wedding their guests have ever been too. I will say right now my wedding will probably not be the best wedding most of my guests have ever been to. Do I hope it's a beautiful, fun wedding that my guests have a kickass time at? Absolutely. Am I striving to make it the best? Not really. I would seriously hope their own wedding would be considered the best wedding they've ever been to. With that said I would be pretty freaking bummed if our wedding was the worst wedding they've been too but I don't think that will be the case.

I really believe that brides need to have more realistic expectations about their big days. Your wedding day is an amazing, wonderful, joyous occasion but if you are putting all your happiness eggs into your wedding basket you could end up disappointed or suffering from a bad case of post-wedding depression.

15 comments:

Jenn said...

I agree with both :)

Deals, Steals and Heels said...

i will say, my wedding day was probably the best day of my life UP TO THAT POINT, ya know?? it was an amazing party, and i got to marry the best dude in the world. so that was pretty rockin'. i'm sure it'll get trumped eventually =)

and i actually had NO intention of having the best wedding...but my mom STILL has people tell her it was their favorite wedding ever. it's all about enjoying your own day!

Mrs EyeCanSee said...

Amen! My wedding was definitly ONE of the best days of my life....in fact as of today probably ranks right at the top...however I sure hope I continue to have "best" days. I have a feeling I will be adding one to the list this August. :)

Bicoastal Bride said...

Great post! I also hope my wedding will be one of my best days, but definitely not the one and only BEST. I also hate it when brides feel so much pressure to impress their guests that they lose sight of the meaning of the day. We’ve had fun planning a wedding that reflects our style and personalities, and that we hope will be tons of fun for our guests. But the best they’ve ever been to? I really won’t know and won’t care whether they think so or not.

april said...

I agree on all counts. I also went through my wedding thinking that everything that didn't go according to plan would make a great story later. Perfect weddings are never fun to retell. You need a drunk grandma or a DJ who can't pronounce the groomsmen's names. It's a fun day, but it's only the beginning.

april said...

I agree on all counts. I also went through my wedding thinking that everything that didn't go according to plan would make a great story later. Perfect weddings are never fun to retell. You need a drunk grandma or a DJ who can't pronounce the groomsmen's names. It's a fun day, but it's only the beginning.

Dani said...

I didn't want to deal with all the pressure to make sure my guests have the times of their lives and they think my wedding is the *best.*

...So we're having a destination wedding with only close family and a couple friends. No pressure and I get to enjoy my day. :)

Summer {Bisfor...} said...

you go girl.
i agree with everything you mentioned.

it is important for the guests to have fun but each wedding will offer something different and memorable.

Jen said...

Great post, and I hope every bride-to-be trolling Google lands on this page!

I'm so with you that your wedding is only ONE of the best days of your life; there are so many good, proud, memorable, wonderful days -- big and small.

And, it's totally futile to try to make your wedding the best wedding for anyone but yourselves! Everyone has different tastes and ideas and opinions. What one person considers an awesome wedding, someone else will hate. That's just the way it is.

I totally agree with you, Shannon. Good for you for keeping perspective about the whole wedding process and knowing what's really important. :-) I love reading your posts about your planning process, and I've bookmarked so many of them for my own wedding someday.

Chocolate Lover said...

I agree with you. Definitely will make my top list but there's so much more to life than one day. I want our friends and family to have a fab time, but I am sure there will be plenty of people who will not be critical. Can't please everyone.

NYC Recessionista said...

This is such a great post ... well said and I completely agree!

bananas. said...

Atta girl! Way to keep it real. I see way too many brides turn bridezilla to the extreme and then forgot what the wedding was all about in the first place.

I've been to some fun weddings but have yet to experience the "best wedding ever".

amber said...

Totally agree. There's enough pressure to deal with. Going in thinking it needs to be "the best" is setting yourself up for disappointment.

Kristen said...

Great post!!

Christin said...

I totally agree with you. However, I might say that my wedding will be the best day of my life THUS FAR. Hopefully there will be many more wonderful days that follow.